Who Are You on Facebook?

I think it’s important to think about ‘who you are’ on Facebook. In many respects, you’re marketing yourself on there so it’s a good idea to think about what message you’re sending out to people.

I’m sure you’ve seen some pretty cringeworthy status updates over the years and have a few people on your friends list who just never seem to be happy. They don't seem to be able to get enough attention either.

I feel sorry for them, as I get the feeling that the sort of people who are attracted to these kind of posts won’t be there when they really need them. In my experience, it’s like a never ending cycle of people responding to complainers with their own complaints and seeking attention for themselves.

If you had a serious problem, would you really want former work colleagues or people you met on holiday to know about it?

We all need help, and a support network of some kind, but it’s probably best to keep it in the real world, or at least a private message. Some of your friends could actually be facing very serious situations in their own lives that eclipse a bad day at work or someone upsetting them.

I think it’s sad that that so many people are trying to obtain something that isn't there in this ‘phantom crowd’. 

Who are you on FaceBook?

You’re a lot more likely to find an answer to a problem if you focus on solutions, rather than ‘likes’ from random people. 

For me, the same rules apply when you’re feeling low on Facebook as when you’re drunk. You’re unlikely to be proud of what you post afterwards, so you need to give yourself a few seconds to really think about what you’re doing and what you hope to achieve.

It’s also easy to be offensive on Facebook without realising it. It could be a crude joke, a questionable video or an insensitive statement that you, and your close friends, might find hilarious but others won’t.

It's a good idea to think about who you’re friends with before you post on Facebook, as some family members may not be impressed. Even if your parents are ok with it, their siblings or parents may not view it the same way so save them some strife if you can.

You may tell crude jokes down the pub with your friends, but would you tell them at a family gathering?

These sort of posts probably won't impress people you work with either, so it may be a good ideas to take a second and think about these sort of people as well. Facebook should be fun though, so keep all those funny posts coming. 

I’m fully aware that we’ll always have negativity and dodgy posts on Facebook, but it’s really down to us all to lead by example and help drive change. Even if we influence just one person, we’ll have made a difference.